Why Is It So Hard To Say Something Nice To Ourselves

Why Is It So Hard To Say Something Nice To Ourselves

Frequently, I point out to my clients that they are bullies. Not bullies to anyone else, but really big bullies to themselves. They are highly critical of themselves, say mean things to themselves, and are generally not very nice people when speaking to themselves....
The Dirty Little Secret Of A Control Freak

The Dirty Little Secret Of A Control Freak

Let’s just say… I like things done a certain way. So when I left town for work when the kids were home (which happened about six times a year), I would tend to prepare my family like they’re about to go through military training. I left behind what I call the...
To The Fathers Raising Daughters

To The Fathers Raising Daughters

There’s a unique and powerful role that fathers (or father figures) play in a daughter’s life—one that leaves a lasting imprint on how she sees herself and how she moves through the world. A father is often the first man a girl will ever love, and his presence (or...
The Real Way To Know If You’re Beautiful

The Real Way To Know If You’re Beautiful

Not long ago, I came across something heartbreaking—teen girls posting videos on YouTube asking strangers, “Am I beautiful?” As you can imagine, the comment sections were brutal. Cruelty, judgment, and shame on full display. It’s the kind of thing that sticks with...
My Kids Values are Different Than Mine – Should I Disown Them?

My Kids Values are Different Than Mine – Should I Disown Them?

My husband and I were foolish enough to honor and celebrate our children’s ideas, curiosity, and varying opinions. It seemed like a great idea when they were young and their decisions didn’t really change much in the world. It did, however, make them confident in...
What If We Stopped Being Careful?

What If We Stopped Being Careful?

My son and daughter-in-law are new parents and I’m a happy new grandma. It’s been an absolute pleasure to watch my son and his wife navigate parenthood. It’s a different world now versus when I raised my son. How parents feed and talk to their chlldren has changed and...