The kids these days have a saying regarding “giving zero F*%@s”, from here on out abbreviated to Fs.  I’m not fully sure what they mean by that, but ChatGPT says it means that we aren’t careless or apathetic, but rather giving zero Fs is about choosing what truly matters in our lives and letting go of the unnecessary worries and concerns that often hold us back or tie us down. 

I know that when I turned sixty last year, I really started to give zero Fs. I didn’t care less for others, but rather I really decreased my tendency to worry about things that I couldn’t control. I wanted to focus on the activities and the people and the work that I love. If someone doesn’t like me, oh well. Zero Fs from me. Flight’s delayed? Weather is not what I expected? Plans get changed? Oh well, close to zero Fs from me. I can’t control those things. I particularly started to release the fear of others judging me and what a heavenly release that has been. People judging me is about them and my reaction to it is about me. Zero Fs. 

Here’s what ChatGPT says regarding the benefits of giving zero Fs. And since I give zero Fs, I’ll just copy and paste it right here because I agree with that lovely ChatGPT. If you judge me for using it, oh well. Zero Fs. 

Benefits of Giving Zero F***s

1. Authenticity: When you stop caring about what others think, you can embrace your true self. You no longer need to mold yourself into someone you’re not just to fit societal expectations or gain approval. This authenticity is incredibly liberating and can lead to a more fulfilling life.
2. Reduced Stress and Anxiety: Constantly worrying about others’ opinions can be exhausting and lead to stress and anxiety. By giving zero f***s about unnecessary concerns, you can significantly reduce your mental and emotional burden.
3. Improved Self-Esteem: Your self-worth should come from within, not from external validation. When you stop seeking approval from others, you’ll begin to appreciate yourself for who you are, leading to improved self-esteem.
4. Freedom to Pursue Your Passions: Many people hold back on their dreams and aspirations because they fear criticism or failure. When you stop caring about what others think, you gain the freedom to pursue your passions with full enthusiasm and dedication.
5. Better Relationships: Paradoxically, giving zero f***s can improve your relationships. You’ll attract people who genuinely appreciate and respect you for who you are, rather than those who want you to conform to their expectations.

Also, since I’m writing this on a gorgeous fall day, I’m going to let ChatGPT tell you how to embrace the Zero Fs mindset. I’m going to head to the backyard with my new puppy, play catch and not worry about anyone judging me. Who’s going to join me in giving zero Fs?

How to Embrace the “Zero F***s” Mindset

1. Identify Your Values: Determine what truly matters to you and what aligns with your values. Focus your time and energy on these aspects of your life.
2. Practice Self-Compassion: Treat yourself with kindness and understanding. Don’t be too hard on yourself if you make mistakes or face setbacks.
3. Set Boundaries: Learn to say no when necessary. Setting boundaries is crucial for maintaining your mental and emotional well-being.
4. Let Go of Perfectionism: Perfectionism can be a major roadblock to giving zero f***s. Understand that nobody is perfect, and that’s perfectly okay.
5. Surround Yourself with Positivity: Spend time with people who support and uplift you. Distance yourself from those who bring negativity into your life.

Love,

Lisa Kaplin Psy. D. PCC