A client recently told me she wanted to reach out to an ex-boyfriend—not to rekindle anything, not to make him feel guilty or sad, but simply to tell him she cared about him. She said she wanted him to know she loved him unconditionally, with no expectation of a future relationship. When I asked her why, she smiled and said, “Because that’s how I feel, and it’s what I want to share with him.”
And boom—what a concept. Saying how we feel without being attached to the outcome. Speaking words straight from the heart, just because they’re true.
How often do we not say what’s in our hearts because we’re afraid?
Afraid they won’t receive it well.
Afraid they won’t say it back.
Afraid of being vulnerable.
So we stay quiet. They stay quiet. And all those words—words of love, gratitude, or
kindness—stay trapped inside of us.
What a shame.
Imagine if we started to speak from the heart more often. If we told our friends and family how much they mean to us. If we smiled at strangers and offered a kind word. If we simply shared the warmth we already feel instead of keeping it tucked away.
What’s the worst that could happen?
They don’t feel the same? So what.
They don’t say anything back? So what.
What if we let go of needing a response and just spoke from authenticity and love?
What if we decided that putting kindness into the world is reason enough?
We could even bring this into our workplaces.
What if we told a colleague, sincerely, “I really appreciate how you make our team stronger”? What if we made a habit of giving genuine, positive feedback—and meant it? What if we started looking for what we love in people, instead of what frustrates us?
The world doesn’t suffer from too much kindness. It suffers from too little. There’s already more than enough criticism, sarcasm, and negativity to go around.
So maybe it’s time to balance the scales—by saying the good things we think, out loud.
Say what you want to say.
Let your heart lead.
You might be surprised by how much beauty that small act creates.
Love,
Certified Professional Coach and Psychologist
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