Although I am trained and educated as a psychologist and a coach, what I really do is
help people get conscious about themselves. To understand themselves in a deep, non-
judgmental, and thoughtful way. As I work with my clients, I help them to look deeply at
themselves to become more aware of who they are, why they show up the way they do,
and how they might want to do things differently. It’s a life changing process that leads
to long- term joy and satisfaction. The process, however, is not always easy. Most of us
have been taught to look away from ourselves, to ignore our own feelings, and to judge
many of our thought processes.
How many of us were raised to, “stop crying” even when we were sad? How many of us
were told not to feel certain ways. When we shared our thoughts, we were
criticized or even ostracized for having those thoughts and opinions. So we’ve learned
how to efficiently ignore ourselves and to judge ourselves harshly to shut down any
thoughts, feelings, or actions that seem wrong or uncomfortable to us.
My job is to help you to stop that! My job is to help you understand yourself without
judgment or criticism. So how do you do that? One way is to obviously hire me.
However, there are some other great options as well. Stop and observe yourself
frequently. Do so without judgment. Ask yourself curious questions, “Hmmm, I was
pretty reactive in that situation. How come? What’s coming up for me?” Then really
validate yourself for any thought or feeling you have. There are no wrong thoughts or
feelings.
Often my clients “should” on themselves. “I should not be upset, I should calm down
faster and easier. What’s wrong with me?” All of these are similar to responses or
reactions that you probably received when you were a kid. You’ve now taken over the
role of parenting yourself and maybe you are not being an empathic, open, and curious
parent to yourself. If it wasn’t effective for you as a kid, then why would it be effective
now?
Take time to observe yourself as a non-biased, non-connected observer and start to
understand what is going on for you. Why do you feel the way that you do? What are
you saying to yourself? Why are you saying that? Where did that idea or thought come
from? How true is it? Be an impartial, curious observer of yourself and see how freeing
that is. Watch how it allows you to become more conscious about yourself and
your life’s experiences. Get conscious about you and watch how different, and less
stressful, your life becomes.
Love,
Certified Professional Coach and Psychologist
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How often have you wished for that person in your life who listens deeply, doesn’t judge you, and doesn’t try to fix you? That person who holds space for you to talk through your struggles, your hopes, and dreams so that you can live the personal and professional life that you truly want? I’m that person. Yes, I’m a psychologist and a professional life and leadership coach but my superpower is listening, deep, empathic, compassionate listening. If you’ve been seeking a professional listener who will help you live the life you truly desire, let’s set up a time to talk. My email is Lisa@LisaKaplin.com.