Bullies? I wonder where they got that.

Bullies? I wonder where they got that.

It seems that almost every day we read a terrible story of a child suffering chronic abuse at the hands of bullies.   These aptly named people seem to be relentless in their ability to attack, demean, and belittle their intended victim.  In trying to understand why...
Spanish or guitar, what’s a controlling mother to do?

Spanish or guitar, what’s a controlling mother to do?

When my oldest child was a sophomore in high school he dropped a big bomb on me.  He asked to stop taking Spanish class and instead take . . . guitar.  I’d always planned on my children being bilingual.  You may think this would be a good time to point out that that...

Mom Regrets, I’ve had a few but these aren’t them!

Last year my oldest child left for college, which happened about 24 hours after he was born.  Or at least that’s how it felt to me.  I can look back and think of a few things that I regret as his mom, nothing too serious, just a thing or two that I might change.  I...
The Feminist and the High School Girl; is there Hope?

The Feminist and the High School Girl; is there Hope?

This is the year that my daughter begins high school.  I’m trying very hard not to be fearful or dread it yet I can’t help but remember the hell that I gave my mother and her promise that she’s going to laugh when I have my own teen-aged daughter.   Throw in my...
Martyr Mamas and the Concrete Coat of Shoulds

Martyr Mamas and the Concrete Coat of Shoulds

I’m sure it started earlier than this but I began to notice it when I was pregnant with my first child. “You shouldn’t drink wine, or eat peanut butter or shell fish.  Don’t gain more than 30 pounds (which I misunderstood to mean per month vs. the whole pregnancy).” ...