Why Changing Your Partner Won’t Work

Why Changing Your Partner Won’t Work

Annoyed with your partner? There might not be a whole lot you can do about it. “How Can I Change My Partner?” A lot of people ask me “how can I change my partner?” My short answer is, “you can’t.” My longer answer is that you...
Forgiveness – Can You Do it?

Forgiveness – Can You Do it?

Who are you really hurting when you hold on to the pain? Last week Hillary Clinton made a brief but profound statement about forgiving her husband after his affair in the White House. Clinton said, “Forgiveness is a choice.” Clinton never mentions anything...

The Happy and Sad Tears of Motherhood

In a couple of weeks my baby graduates from 8th grade and the era of mothering grade schoolers will be over for me.  Part of me is filled with joy that I will never have to attend a painful school picnic, or parent/teacher meeting yet there is another part of me that...
Top Dating Mistakes that Lead to Divorce

Top Dating Mistakes that Lead to Divorce

“If it’s a red flag while you are dating, it turns into a billboard sign after you get married.” These wise words are from one of my clients who just got divorced. My work puts me into the unique position of 20/20 hindsight on dating mistakes that may lead...
The Dirty Little Secret of A Control Freak

The Dirty Little Secret of A Control Freak

About six times a year I travel for business leaving my husband and at least two children and a high-energy alpha puppy behind.  My typical practice prior to leaving is to compose an outrageously detailed novella on what my husband and children must do during every...