It’s Your Time—Right Now.

Back when I was first becoming a life coach, one of the requirements was to practice real conversations with real people. Instead of awkwardly approaching strangers, I turned to the people I know best—my friends (bless them, they’ve been unofficial clients since day one). Those early conversations were raw, honest, and eye-opening—and they revealed something I still see all the time in my work today.

And here’s what I kept hearing, over and over again:
“It’s just not my time right now.”

Wait… what?!
It turns out there’s an epidemic going around, and I’m calling it “Not My Time Syndrome.”

You’ve likely heard it. Maybe you’ve even said it yourself.

But I want to ask you—when exactly is your time?
How long is life? Do you know for sure that you’ll still be here tomorrow? Are you waiting for your schedule to clear up? For your back to give out? For your kids to grow up and leave the house? For the wrinkles, the perimenopause, the doctor’s appointments to pile up? Then, will it be your time?

Let me be real with you.
Life is now.
Not when the kids are older. Not when work slows down. Not when the chaos calms.

What lights you up? What makes you want to jump out of bed in the morning (and no, I don’t mean packing lunches or answering emails before 9 a.m.)? Those are responsibilities—but they aren’t your why. When was the last time you felt truly alive—lit up, fulfilled, connected to something that mattered to you?

If your answer takes you all the way back to the Bee Gees… it’s time to make a change.

Here’s where we start:
Ask yourself—

• What did I dream of being when I was younger?

• If I wasn’t responsible for everyone else right now, what would I be doing?

• What am I waiting for in order for it to be “my time”?

• Do my days feel full but also kind of… empty?

• Have I started identifying with the cast of Real Housewives a little too much?

Next, get curious:

• Is there any small way I can bring my passions into my daily life?

• Can I carve out just one hour a day for me?

• How often am I using my role in my family as an excuse to avoid doing something meaningful?

• Could I actually have more energy if I made space for things that nourished me?

Now listen closely to your internal monologue.
How many excuses do you hear?

Things like:

• “My kids need me every second of the day.”

• “If I let my partner help, they’ll just mess it up.”

• “A good parent gives 110% to their family—always.”

• “My work needs me more than anything right now.”

• Or the most common of all: “I’m just too tired to add anything else.”

Sound familiar? That’s Not My Time Syndrome in action.

But here’s the good news:
It’s not too late. You can flip the script.

Here’s what your kids actually need:
Parents who are alive inside. Who model wholeness, not martyrdom. Who know how to be fulfilled, joyful, energized, and grounded. That version of you—the one who honors yourself and your family—is a far greater gift than any act of constant sacrifice.

So whether it’s finally taking that painting class, writing your book, starting your dream side business, volunteering for a cause close to your heart, or working somewhere fun just because it makes you feel good—do it. Now.

Your time is not tomorrow.
Your time is today.

Let’s not waste another minute.

Love,