Some people in my life have been on the job hunt and I’ve been shocked by the lack of
decency that is given to people applying for jobs. Often, no response at all when a
company receives a resume or application. Yes, I understand they receive many
resumes and applications and that it might take a bit of time to respond to all those
applications. However, if you can’t afford the time or money to respond to people who
took the time to apply to your company, are you really a company worth working for?
Part of my work is to periodically give proposals to organizations for my services. I
spend a great deal of time devising a powerful proposal that fits the needs of the
organization and the individuals who I might be serving. I have a discovery call with
leaders. Sometimes I talk to employees as well, and then I put my proposal together.
Last year, two organizations never responded at all after requesting my proposal. Even
after I emailed them to ask if they had questions about my proposal . . . nothing!
Absolute ghosting.
Have we lost basic decency? Is a simple, “no thank you” too much to ask? Excellent
business etiquette shows that you care about your organization, and you also value the
time and energy of others. Not only that, but decent business etiquette also shows that
your company values kindness, structure, and appropriately direct communication. It’s
so surprising when fully developed, outwardly successful adults are not upfront and
candid in their communication.
It is hard to say no to someone. It is hard to let someone down or even risk hurting their
feelings. However, what’s harder for the other person is not knowing, not having a clear
answer, or even not sure if you received their resume, request, or proposal. Healthy
communication includes the ability to give honest news to people, news that may feel
painful. I’m always so impressed after I give a proposal to someone when they clearly
give me either a yes or no answer. It shows their professionalism and their desire to be
direct and clear with me.
Let’s all commit to being honest and upfront with each other. If you are not going to hire
someone, tell them so. If you are not going to accept a proposal or an offer, say so. A
quick email will suffice, and in doing so you will be sharing your own personal strengths
as well as the professionalism of the organization you work for.
Love,
Lisa Kaplin Psy. D. PCC
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